A woman I will call Camille who came into Pastoral Counseling struggled with thinking she wasn’t beautiful enough, thin enough, or sexy enough for husband after catching her husband with porn. She shared how she felt it was her fault. It also made her feel less interested in sex with him because it made her feel he saw sex as raw and women as objects and not an act of love for her.
While we worked through the reality that his porn addiction had nothing to do with her and everything to do with him. She realized the lies she had been telling herself.
When we turned the attention to her husband she stuck up for him saying he says he is sorry and had gotten help. She did feel better in that her husband had stopped watching it, had sought help and keeps working on making it up to her. She shared how he keeps getting her to see it was not about her and says she is beautiful. She began to see the truth in his love for her.
As we focused on her understanding of his mistake and what is a common struggle for many, the empathizing with him helped her forgive him. They were then able to work on healing together.
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Melanie Simon
Become Fulfilled 